Here's an article from the opinion section of the Des Moines Register in Iowa.http://www.desmoinesregister.com/article/20090428/OPINION01/904280350/1036/Opinion
I think the Family is so wrong and may have helped push their son away. Maybe they should have taught him that gay people were valid members of society. They could have helped steer him in a good direction instead of shunning him and leaving him to the world. How many times had you told your son that Homosexuality was a sin, gross, and that they go to hell? Did you realize that you were telling him that he was a worthless sinner? I can empathize how trapped he must have felt. Did you write that article to cover your guilt for failing him?
He was not "recruited", if we could do that, EVERY hot guy would be gay! David Beckham, Anderson Cooper, and Prince Harry would be my gay posse, Those gay republicans would be straight... the interesting choices are the ones that parents seem to make about weather or not to unconditionally love their children. He was a whole person derived from your genetic make-up and decision to have him. When gay people that breed/adopt and raise a well adjusted straight child... do you see them writing about failure, that they were Recruited in school by the filthy "Hetros"?
Had your son told you he was gay, would you try to cure him, or would you help him understand his feelings in a positive light? Had it occurred to you that teaching him of Safer Sex, much like you teach a girl to warn her about pregnancy might have changed everything? You would still have a gay son, but maybe he'd be alive and have found a partner and adopted a kid that would be your grandchild... I'm not saying that you could have changed anything, you might not have known. The idea of being able to marry might have changed his outcome. He might have thought more of his future goals then allowing himself to live in the moment.
Instead of passing the blame to the Gay Community, I think you should be warning other parents that they could have the same experience unless they change their small minded, short sighted ways. You may help another person get what they need to make informed decisions in life. Get through to the other parents and encourage them to talk to their children. Gay, Straight, Transgendered, Bisexual, Confused, Boy, or Girl... protect yourself! You can say no to anyone at anytime! You are loved and cherished! Don't listen to opinion articles filled with hatred.
Poor Randy... what was it like to die with a group of people that "Love" you but can't accept you or condone your life. That would be my worst nightmare... hell on earth, while being told I'm going to hell in death. If I believed in such a place, that is.
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Guest column: Homosexual lifestyle, marriage cause families pain
This April marked our 47th wedding anniversary. My wife, Judy, and I have been blessed with an enduring love that has brought us through the ups and downs of nearly five decades together. We raised three wonderful children, and now enjoy being grandparents. Ours has in many ways been a storybook life.
The single most tragic event in our years together has been the untimely death of our oldest son, Randy. Our firstborn was a blessing that brought so much joy into our lives. He was extremely smart, he participated in extracurricular activities, graduated with many honors and went on to college. After college, he moved to Omaha and took a job. It was while he was living in Omaha that one of Randy's co-workers recruited him into the homosexual "lifestyle."
We loved our son as much as any parents have ever loved a son. Even when we became aware of his homosexuality, we assured him of our love. That is not to say that we condoned or accepted what we knew to be a dangerous "lifestyle," but we always maintained our relationship with the son we had raised and the man we prayed would be delivered from homosexuality.
When we discovered that Randy was sick, we invited him to come home to seek medical attention. We suspected the worst, but hoped for anything else. Either way, we wanted to help our son and see his health restored. We knew the tests would leave no doubt, but there simply are no words to describe the pain of hearing your firstborn say, "Dad, I'm HIV positive."
As a parent, nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child to a terminal illness. It's somehow worse when that illness resulted from your child's reckless decision and his own actions. Witnessing the daily physical deterioration of our son caused great pain and sadness to us as parents and on the extended family as well.
It was interesting to note that once Randy was diagnosed HIV positive, the homosexual community who had actively recruited him and had claimed to be his "family" were nowhere to be found. As his health declined, he spoke frankly about the homosexual experience. Randy said, "It is not an alternate lifestyle. It is a cult."
For years, my wife and I have watched the media and homosexual activists work together to redefine family and marriage in our society. The consistent message has been that homosexual "marriage" will hurt no one, and that those of us who support marriage only between one man and one woman will not be impacted. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Our hearts go out to people caught up in homosexuality. The destruction and pain that homosexuality leaves in its wake is deep and impacts so many more than just the individuals caught up in the activity. We now know several other couples who are struggling with a son who chose to engage in homosexuality. We know the pain they endure, and understand when they reach out for help. One person's homosexuality causes stress and strain on every friend and relative who truly cares about them.
For the Iowa Supreme Court to sanction homosexual "marriage" is to encourage and underwrite the negative results that naturally come from the homosexual "lifestyle." Aside from the physical destruction inflicted on those who practice homosexuality and the incredible stress homosexuals cause their extended families, society often pays a hefty price as well. Randy lost his job when he was no longer strong enough to work. With the loss of that job, he lost his ability to insure himself. As a result, you the taxpayer paid for more than $250,000 in medical bills for this one AIDS patient.
For those still uncertain about homosexual "marriage," please understand that the more accepting we are of homosexuality as a society, the more likely it is that your family, and society in general, will suffer the pain that ultimately results. Homosexuality took the life of our son. We oppose homosexuality and homosexual "marriage" in the hope that we might help another family avoid the pain that we have endured.